Defensiveness is the second of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse. Defensiveness is the notion of wanting to protect one's self during an arguement. As a result, we often counterattack or whine. This video explains the antidote for this type of behavior. #defensiveness #gottman #fourhorsemen

Criticisms & Gentle Start Ups

Criticisms are one of the Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, and one behavior that you should avoid as it sabotages us from being listened to. This video explains how we find ways to give voice to our complaints within our relationships without making the listener defensive. We call this technique gentle start ups. #gentlestartups #fourhorsemen

The Four Horsemen

Marriage Minute: This video is about The Gottman's Four Horsemen of the Apocalypse, or more specifically what behaviors are detrimental to your relationship. They are Criticism, Defensiveness, Contempt, and Stonewalling. According to John and Julie Gottman's research individual's who use these behaviors consistently in their relationship have 90% chance that their relationship will eventually fail. #gottman #fourhorsemen #marriagecounseling


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